When you show up as your true self, it is you who will be seen.
It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? If you want to be seen as yourself, you have to show up and be who you are. This means you need to let go of any energy that tells you you’re not enough, that says you should hide until you earn the right to step up.
It’s a little nerve wracking to step out of the crowd that only moments ago you were trying so hard to fit into, and to show us all who you are. People will judge you, and other people will be afraid for you, and still others will be angry because you had the audacity to do what they in their deepest heart wanted to do but somehow couldn’t. How dare you do it first?
Ask yourself this: if everyone is so lit up by you stepping up to be seen, then who were you being before now? How did you allow others to see you? What did you agree to hide about yourself in order to be accepted by the group?
Can you be seen being who you are?
Is there pressure on you to be seen in a way others would like to see you? Everyone has an opinion, and you know one or two (or more) strong willed people who have already decided how you should be, and what is in your best interest to show the world about yourself. They’re doing you a favor, you know, at least according to them.
People will let you know when your wish to be the real you is in conflict with their desire to remain in an old comfortable way of being. Does it work for you to not be seen because others are not comfortable seeing the real you? Are you being seen as being someone other than your true self?
What do you miss out on in your life when you stay in an old agreement that limits who you are?
We are all taught the art of fitting in, from a young age.
Why are we encouraged to fit into the group? It’s truly painful to be rejected, at any age. It’s especially painful when you’re a child. Like it or not, the group accepts and rejects according to the rules and agreements of that particular group.
Every group is self editing – the group itself chooses who gets to stay and who has to go. Who is in and who is out. If your survival and self image depend on being accepted into this group, you will mold yourself into someone the group accepts. This may or may not be the real you.
So we are encouraged to fit in, to not make waves, to go along to get along. We are taught to be good team players, to make others feel comfortable, to be Nice, whether or not it is our Truth.
Choose to be who you are no matter what anyone else says.
Unapologetically show up as yourself, and you are on your own path. This means others can see you, the real you. The group will lose its control over you when you do this.
The people you want to have in your life will come looking for you when you allow yourself to be seen. When you were hiding your light, the folks you really wanted to know couldn’t find you.
Show up as your authentic self, and you’re free.
“Do not allow people to dim your shine because they are blinded. Tell them to put on some sunglasses, cuz we were born this way!” – Lady Gaga