10 ways to validate yourself and others this spring

One of the best ways to make your grand entrance into a new season is to check the vibration you’re bringing with you.

Are you able to validate yourself for who you already are? Did you know that when you have validation within, you bring this energy with you everywhere you go?

Every day, people walk around wondering what they’re doing wrong, and feeling invalidated for not getting it right all the time.

Considering the fact that we’re all making it up as we go along each and every day, it can be easy to get stuck on the thought that you are screwing it up somehow. You’re walking your own path, and sometimes there will be missteps along the way.

Making a mistake isn’t an easy thing to do in a judgmental society that demands perfection. But it’s that judgment that can really get in your way here, whether from yourself or anyone else.

The good news is that there are a lot of things you’re already doing right.

With the humble hope that I can inspire you a bit, here’s a reminder and a few suggestions for you.

Some things you may already be doing right:

You try.

Even if you have no idea how you’re going to get to the next level of what you’re doing in your life, or to find the answer you’re looking for, you keep trying.

If it feels to you like you’re not doing all you can do, if you’re not as fully committed as you want to be, know that you can change any of your actions at any time. Some things take time.

You give.

You are generous with your information, you give a kind greeting to people you meet throughout your day. You let that other driver into your lane in busy traffic. You call and say hello to a friend or relative who would like to hear your voice.

You don’t have to give money or expensive objects in order to give gifts. When you show up with a smile and a hello, you’re bringing one of the nicest gifts possible.

You show up.

You do it even when you don’t feel like it. You go to work, rehearsal, practice. You make the calls, draft the proposal. You go to the meeting, show up for the event, be where you said you’d be.

You have the best attitude possible.

Even when it isn’t fun, or you feel put upon or beaten down from experiences you’ve had, you show up with your best face forward. You let go of self pity.

You are conscientious about the kind of energy you carry around with you, because you are aware that your energy affects others you come into contact with.

You forgive.

Yes, you get to forgive even the jerkiest of the jerks. Remember that you are forgiving them for yourself, not for them. You make it a personal rule to drop all grudges, because you know a grudge is a heavy thing to carry with you.

Nobody’s perfect, which means you aren’t either. You can also forgive yourself.

You’re letting it go.

The past, the pain, the betrayals, the disappointments, the mean people in your life. You’re smart enough to know that if you hold onto all of that, you only hurt yourself.

You’re kind to yourself while trying to let it go, and give yourself a break for needing to take a bit of time to let some of the tougher bits go away for good.

You’re taking care of your own energy, daily.

This includes listening to your body and giving it more of what it needs and wants. You don’t have to do this according to how anyone else says you must or should. This is completely your call.

Just showing up and giving yourself more of what you want and need, is a positive step. Don’t get stuck here thinking you need to be perfect.

You love.

Love is the most powerful energy there is, and you change the world when you choose to carry love along on your journey. You can allow yourself to be loved. You can find love for yourself, your body, the people in your world.

Even without saying a word, others will know you by this vibration.

You mind your own business.

Let go of the need to control others and tell them what they should do. Allow the other adults in your life to make their own choices. Stop telling your adult children or your parents what they are doing wrong, when they never asked for your opinion to begin with.

Do yourself a favor and don’t give advice to friends who didn’t ask for it. Listen, smile, and let it go.

You take time off to simply be and live.

This means step away from constantly needing to be busy. Go sit on the beach, walk in the forest, or someplace else. Observe, breathe, let your mind empty of the constant to-do list.

Enjoy how your body feels in the sun, sit and look up at the stars at night, or do nothing. Regain your perspective with being a human on this earth, in present time.

©Kris Cahill
‘Sunday morning services at Stone Mountain’ ©Karas Cahill


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